Demand feeding, permissive parenting. Is this loving your child or training a narcissist?
Many moms assume that demand feeding and responding to every “squeak” from baby is the most loving, natural and healthy approach to child-care.
They assume that this approach makes baby feel loved and secure. “Not so”, said Dr. Leila Denmark, the world’s most experienced Pediatrician.
Hi, I’m Madia. I have eleven children and one of the greatest privileges of my life was to know Dr. Leila Denmark. She practiced pediatrics for over 75 years and was my mentor for 32 years.
I can hardly express how much she helped me, both with the children’s medical issues and family life challenges. I would love to share what she taught me with you.
Demand feeding or feeding every two hours round-the-clock is often recommended for newborns. Many assume that demand feeding simulates the more “natural” and wholesome habits of the animal kingdom and human mothers that lived long ago.
Dr. Denmark claimed that this assumption is wrong. Having grown up on a farm, at the turn of the twentieth century, she observed first-hand that animals had a rhythm to their eating habits based on their particular digestive systems. Her own mother, a farmer’s wife, would never have had the time to nurse on demand. Her mother did not live at the frenetic pace many modern women tend to fall into. She took time to relax and nurse her babies.
However, without modern refrigeration and labor-saving devices, a farmer’s wife was too busy to nurse every time baby